My fertility story.
We tried for about 10 years to become pregnant. At one point we even looked at in-vitro fertilization, but that was too expensive for us at the time. We had some fun trying to get pregnant and then it becomes not so much fun when we were timing things. I had an ectopic pregnancy and according to my Doctor probably a couple miscarriage's without even knowing it! Finally we decided to start the long process to become foster parents, hoping to eventually have the opportunity to adopt a foster child.
I did everything recommended to me by my integrated OBGYN Doctor (Dr. Choi at Integrated Wellness Center), my nutritionist sister, and Paul Murray III who owns The Whole Health Center to try to conceive. Since 2005; I cleaned up my diet, ate mostly organic whole foods, went on the candida diet for awhile, avoided GMO's, gluten, dairy, soy, corn, yeast, msg, sugar, artificial food coloring/dyes/sugar, and etc. I took all the whole food organic vitamins that my body needed, did acupuncture, yoga, weight lifting classes, and walked. The only thing left according to Dr. Choi was to de-stress and relax. That would be a difficult task for me! Not like making such lifestyle changes I had already made were all pigtails and pony rides! I was criticized and made fun of by everyone I knew, especially my husband and his friends. To find alternative food back in 2005 was next to impossible so I made it up as I went along.
Then tragedy struck our family! My Father-in-law was broadsided by an 18 wheeler truck less than a mile from his home. He was in intensive care and the Doctor's said it was a miracle he even made it to the hospital. We rushed out to Michigan from Colorado to see him and to be with family. Looking back at it now I cannot help but think of how my Doctor had told me that I HAD to de-stress and relax to get pregnant. This was an incredibly sad way of doing that, but I felt in a way that was unintentionally happening during this time. We couldn't do a thing, but pray! We cried, remember, prayed, talked to him in his coma, and gathered around family.
We were only back home for a few days when we got the dreaded call that he was going to be taken off of life support. Not long after that is when another call came that he was no longer on this earth. What devastating news! Shocking! A precious man's life taken way too soon!
Back to Michigan to help with the arrangements and be with family to bury a loving father, husband, brother, uncle, friend, and Father-in-law! My Mother-in-law spoke at the funeral and it was a very tearful goodbye for all. The song that was playing at his funeral was by Israel Kamakawiwo called somewhere over the rainbow which didn't leave a dry eye in the room. Now, every time we hear that song we know it's him saying "hi".
A month later, I had been complaining to my husband that my belly felt like I was rejecting yet, another form of food. Could it be rice, I thought, since I substitute so many foods with it? I finally listened to him and went to see Dr. Choi to have a look. They always ask for you to urinate in a cup first thing, so I thought nothing of it. Until they came in telling me that I'm positive for pregnancy! I told them that I can't get pregnant and that they must be mistaken. I immediately text my husband that we were pregnant. Upon leaving the office I told my sister (who was working for Dr. Choi at the time as a nutritionist/Bio Meridian) that it's positive. She freaked out and said "what's positive, what's wrong?" We got a good laugh out of my shock deliverance hugged, and talked about getting together to discuss the best vitamins to start on.
The day after we found out we were pregnant is when we signed on the dotted line to foster. Telling them that we need to hold off to see if we carry this baby full term. They were thrilled and advised us to keep current with all the updates so that all the hard work we did for the year wouldn't go to waste if we decided to move forward at a later date to foster.
I was so careful during my pregnancy, I never even went into get a haircut because I didn't want to expose the baby to unnecessary chemicals. I was put on bed rest for the last 5 months because of preeclampsia. I was also put on thyroid medication for the first time in my life. I thought that the bed rest was the best idea at the times because I wasn't good with stress and worry!
I remember during a session of acupuncture felling a strong hand hold mine and whisper that everything will be okay. I felt my Father-in-law's presence that day and it gave me such a feeling of peace! After telling my husband about my experience; he then shared with me that the text he received from me saying that we were pregnant was the exact time his Father was pronounced gone exactly 1 month prior!
We checked into the hospital on Sunday, May 2, 2010. I felt my first and only contraction the next day after they filled me with some drugs to induce labor. I opted for the epidural and felt ready after I received it. Dr. Choi said she could feel the baby's hand and that we need to go in for a c-section.
We we're on pins and needles awaiting his cry and to have a look at him! Just holding our breath until we finally heard it! Finally!!! After waiting, hoping, praying, preparing, and wanting to get pregnant for so long... there it was like music to our ears!! To see that pouty lip quiver just filled my heart with so much joy! My husband stayed with him as planned while they took care of me.
The male nurse was commenting to the other nurses how amazed he was at the mother/daughter Doctor team that I had (once they left the room). As they worked on me, I just was so amazed at what had just transpired. How could I have been so blessed? I cannot wait to hold my baby! Please hurry with me, I kept thinking, what's taking so long? Finally, that moment that all Mom's will remember for eternity! He snuggled up to me as I spoke ever so softly to him. I told him how perfect he was and how much I loved him.
Being blessed to be an older Mom was not by choice. However, having my Father-in-law pull some strings for us up there in heaven finally made our dream come true! Of course, I have to give credit to GOD, my fabulous sister, Dr. Choi, and Paul Murray III for all there fantastic advice. They took such good care of me and our unborn child. Changing my lifestyle because of their advice was key to our pregnancy and birth! I will be forever grateful!
I feel like we all have a fertility story. Sharing our experiences not only helps us grow, but could help someone going through a similar situation. I began my health and wellness journey because of my infertility.
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